My First Broken Heart

Most of us have had our hearts broken many times.  The first time that I remember mine being broken was when I was 13.  He was a skinny, dark-eyed, brown-haired boy, who was the same age as me.  We met at the local indoor swimming pool.  Every Saturday that summer, we'd flirt with each other in a childish way; but only while in the tepid, chlorinated water.  We'd splash each other, and shyly laugh now and then.  We never touched, though my heart ached for hug.

I looked for him every week; and I was happy when I saw him smiling as he walked along the edge of the pool towards me. Then Saturday, he didn't show up.  I was devastated!  Hoping to see him, I kept going back to that pool; but I never saw that boy again. Soon the summer ended.  He was gone forever!
 
There were many other boys who also disappeared over the years, including my husband; and someone else who was important to me many years later in my life. Each time it happened, I was brokenhearted all over again!

I've thought about this pattern in my life; and I've worked hard to try and heal the wounds and scars that each experience has left on my heart. I've learned a lot about human nature, especially mine; and I've grown.

The most important thing I've learned is that I can't change other people; but I can change myself. I can make different choices. I can have stronger boundaries. I can learn to discern and acknowledge the signs and symptoms of inappropriate behavior. I can remove myself from these behaviors before I get trapped by my emotions, and my need to fix, or help, or understand too much.

Along the way, I've also learned that the first time my heart was broken was not when I was 13. It wasn't even when I was 10, and my family was separated from my father, by a continent, for 9 long months. It happened during the circumstances of my birth.  More about this next time...

When was your heart broken for the first time?  Tell me your story, and how it made you feel then.  Have you gotten over your heartbreak?  I hope so.

If not, I can teach you many innovative strategies that can help you change how you are feeling; so that you can attract who you really want into your life.   (For more information, see my Favourite Links below.)